How to make a long-distance relationship work for real

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If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’ve likely experience this moment: Your long-distance status is mentioned, and a stranger answers, enthusiastically,” Aw, that’s OK, at least you have FaceTime !” While that’s true, staring at your partner’s face on your phone isn’t the magical technological solution to making a relationship work across states, or even countries.

Sure, technology has helped long-distance relationships become practical and achievable; they are no longer the romantically doomed endeavors they once were. But that’s not to say it isn’t still a challenge. After all, according to the basic science behind the proximity principle, individuals are much more likely to sort and maintain lasting relationships with those who are close by.

While the average span of a long-distance relationship is a not-so-impressive 4.5 months, according to the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, odds aren’t stopping anyone from taking a multi-mile leap of faith. Around 14 million people in the U.S. reported being in a long-distance relationship at some phase in their dating life, and 3.75 million married couples are currently in a long-distance relationship in the country. In the end, all relationships depend on communication and attempt, regardless of geography.

So how can you keep a healthy, long-distance relationship afloat? We spoke with a professional dating coach-and-four to find the best tips-off and tricks for constructing your long-distance relationship work , no matter how far away your partner is.

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How to make a long-distance relationship work

1) Communicate, communicate, communicate

You’ve probably been told a million times that communication is key, which pertains to almost everything in life including relationships with miles in between them. Finding the most effective ways to communicate how you feel within–and what you want to get out–of a relationship is key to strengthening your connection and resolving conflict.

In a 2013 study that surveyed people’s texts, phone calls, and other forms of digital communication, researchers at Cornell University and City of Hong Kong University found that partners in long-distance relationships demonstrate equal or even more trust and satisfaction than partners who are geographically close. According to the study, if a long-distance couple practises open communication, it can bring them closer together since they disclose more about themselves freely and more frequently.

According to Lisa Shields, a professional dating coach-and-four based in Los Angeles, when it comes to conflict, it’s important not to make assumptions and speak up if something rub you the wrong way in a relationship. Sweeping a situation under the carpeting could subsequently cause bitternes in the relationship, leaving it to eventually fall apart.

” Couples should really stay connected every single day if they are long-distance ,” Shields told the Daily Dot.” You have to communicate. If something goes wrong, you need to address it right away and not let things build up .”


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